On that 2020 insight

Surprise, surprise: it’s New Year’s Eve and here I am again, writing a post after months of silence.

I’m not sure what it is about the New Year that gets me thinking I can reinvent myself, change myself, better myself, as if I’m not already living a life I’m proud of. I also get this weird itch to clean everything I can see. For example, today I swept under my bed for the first time since I moved into this place (it was wild). I also have plans to go through and refold everything, audit my knickknacks, and really become a minimalist. It’s not even like I don’t love things the way they are, but there’s something soothing about resetting everything at the dawn of a New Year.

I have also been in deep reflection about what I learned this year and how I’m ready to use this knowledge to move forward. My biggest lesson this past year was that I need to learn patience and mindfulness. I cannot rush into rage or frustration. That reaction isn’t sustainable; taking a breath and processing what is happening and how it’s effecting me should be my first step.

This coming year I want to release myself from my self-loathing tendencies. I have outgrown them and they no longer serve me. I will not judge my past self for turning to tearing myself down, instead I will learn to comfort myself and bring myself up. I also want to learn how to sew my own clothes, and how to cook better, and how to eat more locally and to eat what is in season. I really want to challenge myself to do these things this year because putting time into myself teaches me that I’m worth the time.

This year I want to be more caring to myself and to others, and I really want to own my actions to help ease my anxiety. Being honest and taking responsibility will be at the forefront of everything I do.

It’s wild to think how much I have grown in the past decade: I learned to drive, graduated high school and university, I have loved, gotten hurt, hurt others, I learned a lot about my sexuality, I’ve made some of the most amazing friends, and maintaining an amazing relationship with my mother, sister, and father. I’m really lucky to be able to live in my dream city with the most incredible support group around me.

Congrats, gang. We made it to a new decade and a new year. Let’s crush it.

xo

Lea

How I fixed my skin

Hey there friends! Today I thought we would talk about skin. For a long time I have struggled with my skin, but not necessarily in the conventional ways. I never had acne, I never had oily skin, nor have I had overly dry skin: what I do have is sensitive skin that is prone to rashes, and small under the skin bumps that aren’t quite pimples. So sure, I never had “bad” skin, but the skin I have has given me my own set of annoyances. But after high school most of my skin bumps seemed to sort themselves out. Unfortunately on break during university when I would go home, my skin would break out in rashes. It happened for a few years and were endlessly frustrating, but I found my cure (thank you hydro-cortisone) and moved on. More recently I stopped taking birth control because the progestins and the hormones really were not right for me (this is a long story, I tried countless different forms which either resulted in manic behavior or very depressed behavior). Ultimately it was clear it wasn’t for me so I stopped, but what I wasn’t expecting was for how it would affect my skin! Out of nowhere I started breaking out and having uneven skin tones, like super blotchy cheeks and like pimples. I mean, COME ON! I’m in my twenties, I’m not some puberty newbie, why me world why me! I had to figure out something to do to fix my skin because wallowing in my sadness wasn’t getting me anywhere. So after many trials and errors I finally have my routine that works perfectly for me.

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I try to wash my face morning and night with Just Natural Skincare’s acne soap.┬áBut I also try to give my face a day off from everything: washing, makeup, everything. So once a week I just don’t wash my face, I might add moisturizer, but I have found it’s been good to give my skin a break every now and then. Anyway, on a face washing day after I use a toner to help remove any left over dirt, right now I’m using Clinic’s classic purple toner because I had it on hand, but I am on the market for a new toner. In the morning my next step is to use Ole Henriksen’s Vitamin C Serum followed by Caudalie’s Premier Cru eye cream to try to tame my puffy eyes. Finally every morning I put on a moisterizer with SPF in it, right now I’m using one by Clinic which is nice, but again I am on the market to try something with more protection.

At night after toning I used Ole Henriksen’s Invigorating Night Treatment followed by Caudalie’s eye cream and topped off with Ole Henriksen’s Sheer Transformation cream. (Pro tip: get the Sephora 3 little wonders bundle to try the three Ole Henriksen products I use, it’s pretty affordable and an easy way to try them.) Finally if my skin feels dry, it is almost winter after all, I throw on a little of Josie Maran’s Argan oil.

This has been working really well for me right now, but it’s also important to know that your skin changes with you and that what works one year might not work the next. Listen to skin! And drink more water!

What are you using that you love? Let me know!

Love,

Lea

Welcoming in the New Year

Hey friends! So it’s been a while. I really have not been great at time management since I’ve been adjusting to life here in BC, but no more excuses! New Year new me, right?! And because it’s now 2017 I’ve been thinking that I should get to having some resolutions because why not. Tis the season.

RESOLUTION ONE:

Spend more time unattached to my phone. Yes I might miss my mom’s call, but I can call her back. There’s something so special about being present in the moment with those around you instead of tied to your cellular device. Sorry Rogers, but face to face surpasses Facetime.

RESOLUTION TWO:

I want to save more money which means no more buying dumb stuff. No more buying my lunches out. No. No more. Hungry Guys is great, but I have the technology to make salads at home. I want to be able to afford trips and memories so I have to learn to prioritize.

RESOLUTION THREE:

Educate myself on cool things like music history, movie history, and random pieces of time. I really want to learn more about Bonnie and Clyde so that will be my first stop closely followed by the feudal age of Japan and the imperial age of China. As a student of the past you really can’t stop learning, history is made every day!

And of course I want to post more, not necessarily for you, but for me. Writing gives me a special time to reflect, to think, and to create (and to use the Oxford Comma) so I definitely want to keep this up.

I hope you all have an amazing 2017 and as Hannah Montana said “Life’s what you make it so let’s make it right!”

Love,

Lea

What’s New with Lovely

Hey friends! Sorry I have been so MIA I honestly have no real answer for you except that life can really get in the way of your plans and intentions sometimes. First of all my camera has been slowly dying which basically prevents me from taking photos for you guys, so I have been in the process of getting a new one (which I did this weekend when I was home). It is so frustrating working with technology that is not cooperating with you. My knees have only been getting worse so I can’t run or do a lot of things until physio clears me for it. It is really hard to be happy when your body isn’t doing what it’s supposed to, so this has been extremely difficult. Also school. School is a lot. I am in my fourth and final year of my undergrad and it’s just a lot sometimes even though I have a really light course load.

But, as I have said before, there are dangers in living below the bar. I have been trying really hard to not let this all get to me, because life goes on and things always get better if you believe they can. So I can do it, luckily my knee pain is only muscular/nerve issues, which is way better than having a joint problem, so that right there is a mini victory.

In other words, friends, I am back and I am dedicated to providing you with outfit ideas and fun tips for everyday life. No more ghosting!

Love,

Lea