One of my biggest challenges has been learning to accept that, much as I wish and try and try, I cannot control everything. In fact, all I can really control is my reaction to what happens around me. And because of this, I have been practicing accepting [things as they are and just letting go of the stress of overthinking.] If you know me, you’ve probably had me ask you if we’re okay—I genuinely cannot always tell, and that’s how my anxiety manifests: it tells me everyone is unhappy with me and that I am the reason everything is wrong. Even if that’s true, all I can do is accept that, if there is a problem, it will be brought to my attention.
And so, I passively accept what happens around me. Trains are running late? That’s too bad; I certainly can’t make them faster, so I accept that that’s how it is. I can’t sleep? Some nights that’s just how it is, you always get everything you need to get done regardless of how much sleep you get so instead of stressing about it I passively accept that this is how it is. One of my biggest long-term goals/desires/intentions is to learn how to “chill”.
I have always been a little on edge, and although I’ve gotten a lot better, I still have a few kilometers until I’ve mastered the art of “chill”. You can’t make everyone like you, you can’t make people hire you, and you can’t make the sky green. What you can control is how you approach life and how you handle adversity. You are a gift: never let that be disputed. Likewise, you have the power within you to release the stress and anxiety that doesn’t need to be yours. You attract the energy you provide therefore, if you approach situations with a calm, level mind you’ll be able to receive that information in a calm and level fashion.